When you have excellent health, all other things are possible in your life. Below is a quick guide containing some of the most often-asked questions – FAQs – about how to become healthier immediately.
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I’m Dane Findley and my message is simple: it’s only in your thriving that you have anything to offer anyone – therefore, the best investment you can ever make is in your own health.
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The most effective way to think about your own improved wellness is: holistically.
Having a holistic mindset means that you explore health solutions within the full circle of wellness – not just within a couple of narrow topics.
Getting Healthier with Each Passing Year
In terms of physical workouts, you have a lot of choices. Depending on your age and physical condition, you may want to focus on lower impact workouts. Pilates is one fantastically effective option (it’s also a lot of fun).
In mid-life and beyond, if we stop exercising we might lose significant strength and bone density. A nutrient-rich diet, coupled with strength training, is an excellent way to get fit and stay fit.
You don’t have to be a professional triathlete, just go at your own pace and know your limitations, while at the same time challenging yourself a bit beyond what’s comfortable.
No one, and I mean no one, knows your body better than you do.
As you begin to craft new health goals for yourself, there are certain key questions that will likely come up. The following five solutions will prove helpful and you begin the process of making yourself healthier immediately.
“How Can I Find an Accountability Partner or Workout Buddy to Help Me Stay Motivated?”
Who in your life supports your improved health?
Who roots for you, and encourages you when you decide to experiment with making changes to daily habits?
Each person should have a wellness team – people in their lives both professional and personal who offer encouragement and insight on the quest for healing and self-improvement.
Your wellness team might include that friend you go on long Saturday-morning walks with, your spouse who jumps onboard with weekly menu changes that include more vegetables, your medical doctor, a wellness coach, a group of online friends, and basically anyone else in your life who truly enhances your energy.”
Research studies have consistently demonstrated a strong connection between increased levels of social support and reduced risk for physical disease, mental illness, and mortality:
- do you have a wellness team?
- would you like to find an accountability partner or workout buddy to help you stay motivated each week so that you can move briskly toward achieving your nutrition and fitness goals?
Advancements in communication are making healthy relationships easier to maintain. Not only can you keep in touch with your most supportive friends – even when they live out of town – but you can also maintain easy contact with health-related consultants. More health practitioners and coaches are moving online to help their clients.
Additionally, Facebook and Google each now provide many groups and communities of like-minded individuals who support each other in reaching their health goals.
“How Do I Make a Green Smoothie?”
- start out by picking up your dark, leafy greens: spinach, kale, arugula, swiss chard, etc.
- wash the greens and dry them in a salad spinner
- put your greens in separate bags, then save those bags in the refrigerator for your week’s smoothies
- pour one bag of your leafy greens into a blender with a very powerful motor
- add your extra ingredients – such as fruit, seeds or nuts, plant protein powder, spices, coconut, rice or hemp milk (optional), and ice.
Ratios will change as your taste buds evolve. At first, you might want less dark leafy greens and more sweet fruits. Over time, the reverse is likely to be true.
This is not a diet. Don’t force the changes, let your cravings dictate the ingredients (at least in the beginning).
It’s good to mix up your recipes and experiment. This way, it doesn’t get stale. Plus, you’ll cover more of the nutrient-spectrum.
Bonus Tip: dark, leafy greens are extremely good for your health when lightly cooked or steamed. However, some people find these plants too potent when consumed raw every day. To ensure against potential toxicity, you can sometimes substitute parsley, celery, broccoli, and cucumber into your smoothies – in place of kale or spinach.
Every body has its own unique chemistry, so listen carefully to your own body to determine which ingredients are best for you. Ask your medical doctor before making any significant changes to your diet or lifestyle.
“Is It Too Late to Get Back into Great Shape After Age 50?”
The answer, of course, is a resounding “no.”
The likelihood is that you can still get into much better shape than you are right now, no matter what your age.
Is it more difficult to get back in shape post-50? Often times, yes. But I’d argue that it’s actually a more important phase of your life to be fit. We can get away with poor habits a lot more in our teens and twenties (than we can after 50).
Getting back in shape doesn’t have to be torturous. Mix up your exercises, just like you’d mix up your smoothie recipes. Keep yourself from plateauing – and from getting bored.
I hate to say it, but the truth is a big part of healthy living after age 50 has to do with preparation and being organized. You need a time budget and a detailed plan – it’s just not going to happen on its own or if you “wing it.”
No one, and I mean no one, knows your body better than you do.
“How Can I Live My Life to the Fullest?”
Living life to the fullest means figuring out what fulfills you and creating a plan that is unique to your goals and desires – then putting that plan into action.
Above all, it means making your physical health your top priority.
When you have your physical health, you have a foundation upon which you can live a passionate, joyful life. All things are possible when you are healthy.
There are universal guidelines for living life to its fullest. The challenge is that, in our current culture, many of them are easier said than done. Among them:
- if your passion and your means of making a living can’t be one and the same, then make sure that you at least have a hobby that you absolutely love.
- release the past: instead of ruminating on old hurts, learn from past mistakes and move on.
- move into action now (avoid justifying an unfulfilling present with false hopes about the future).
- understand that anything that minimizes stress and offers peace-of-mind is invaluable.
Dane earned a masters degree in Counseling Depth Psychology from Pacific Graduate Institute. His past professional adventures include being a Therapist and Discharge Planner at a Dual-Diagnosis Hospital Inpatient Treatment Program, Digital Marketing Director for a real estate brokerage and decades spent as a professional fitness and Pilates trainer. Today, Dane is a Relationship and Healthy-Lifestyle Advocate and he curates the Quality of Life Newsletter – a weekly update for creative types who want to increase their daily joy.
“What are the Easiest Ways to Meditate?”
There are a number of ways to approach the practice of meditation, many of which spring from spiritual traditions.
Three methods I provide below are a starting point – to acquaint you with the process of meditation and to give you a chance to explore how you respond to some different versions.
“Meditation is not an attempt to create a blank mind by blocking out thoughts – which is impossible anyway. Neither is it a simple process of relaxation in which inner conflicts are temporarily suspended in a vague and amorphous state…” – Richard Mattieu
Meditation is a way being that is different than your habitual patterns of thinking.
It makes accessible the ability to experience the world within each moment.
Mediation is about becoming aware – not checking out.
A practice is about loosening the stranglehold of your typical self-perception, so that you can connect to your source.
Sitting down to meditate is not a competitive event where you judge yourself against others. It’s not meant to provide you with another means of beating yourself up in response to perceived failings.
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It’s an occasion to cultivate an attitude of compassion, patience, and appreciation for yourself and your willingness to try something new.
It is a place to remember – by forgetting all you know.
Though no approach holds the promise of complete effortlessness, you may find some meditation practices resonate more or less deeply – or are simply more effective for you – than others.
In the end, your results will be your guide.
Although you can’t expect an overnight change, some shifting should be evident over time.
With regular practice, you may begin to notice small, rewarding, daily changes.
Before beginning meditation, it’s important to arrange your physical environment so that you have the least amount of distraction and discomfort:
- choose a special place inside your home where you are unlikely to be interrupted
- it’s important to have something comfortable to sit on
- if you can get yourself a meditation cushion great, but a couch or a couple of bed pillows will do just fine to start
- the purpose of the cushion is to elevate your bottom higher than your legs (roughly three inches). This helps the flow of circulation and lessens possibility of pinched nerves when sitting in a cross-legged position.
- if sitting with your legs crossed is too difficult then use a chair (with your feet on the floor or a cushion) – remembering to keep your knees below your hips (again to help with circulation).
- if you have small children who seem to gravitate to you instinctively when you are trying to carve out some time for yourself, explain (in their language) what you are doing and why you are doing it. Give them a time frame for how long it might take. When they know there is an end to your “absence,” they are likely to tolerate it better (it may also be a good idea to do the same with your partner)!
- as you settle in to meditate, take note of how you are sitting. For a number of reasons, many of us tend to slouch forward – trying to introduce our chin to our bellies. While meditating though, it is important to sit with your back straight.
- for those of us who have developed a habit of slumping forward a bit, we tend to overdue it when we hear that we need to straighten our posture and, in the process, make ourselves very uncomfortable. So, try to keep in mind that straight does not mean rigid.
- if you feel yourself tensing-up somewhere in particular, turn your attention to that part of your body, and situate yourself so that you are comfortable.
- if it is not painful for you, bend your neck slightly forward with your eyes gazing down at about a 45 degree angle.
For some, the idea of meditating with your eyes open may seem like a strange concept but it helps you to maintain a deeper level of awareness during your practice (and becomes a stepping stone to the practice of mindfulness throughout your waking day).
Your hands can gently rest (palms down) on your knees or you can place your right palm within your left touching your thumbs together – at about the level of your navel – and elbows slightly away from the body.
Holding your hands this way can be helpful if you are feeling drowsy. The position requires you to maintain a certain level of alertness that makes it harder to doze off. Lastly, your tongue is placed on the roof of your mouth which is slightly open.
When you begin to meditate remember to start slowly and work your way forward.
Chuck Pettis, a meditation instructor at the Sakya Monastery, advises starting with one minute.
If you can’t do a minute then do 30 seconds, but do it every day.
You will find that the duration of your practice will lengthen organically. Your practice will benefit from doing shorter sessions daily, rather than attempting to do longer sessions sporadically.
The following are a few methods of meditation, taught by Chuck Pettis, that can help to inspire you to develop your own practice.
Observe Your Own Breathing
The first method involves sitting in the meditation posture and simply following your own breath.
Observe how your breath enters and leaves your body. Just follow it without placing judgment or value upon it. If your attention begins to wander simply return your focus to your breathing.
Another version of this meditation is to count your breath (meaning one inhalation and one exhalation).
How many breaths do you have in a span of 60 seconds?
You can also try the technique of seeing how long it takes you to count your breaths up to twenty one.
It can also be interesting to note the change in your breath at different times of the day – noticing how your rhythm slows or quickens as the day starts, peaks, and then comes to a close.
All of these approaches allow you to become aware of your breathing (the essence of life) and often, in the process of doing so, you will notice that it begins to slow and deepen.
Observe an Object
Another style of meditation involves focusing your attention on an object.
Some people prefer that the object have spiritual significance, such as an image of a saint or deity, but others feel more comfortable using simple items such as a flower blossom or a candle.
When you focus on the object, you want to avoid analyzing it or getting into a descriptive process. If this begins to happen simply let the thought go.
If you are meditating on a spiritual object, the purpose is to eventually be able to visualize that object without it having it be physically present in front of you.
Some people find that they enjoy using malas (prayer beads) in conjunction with a mantra – a grouping of syllables, sounds or words that help calm the mind.
During meditation, mantras can allow your mind to have a focus so that it’s less inclined to wander.
There are many mantras, all with different intentions or meanings.
With a little research, you can find the one that resonates with you. If you follow a certain spiritual practice, a short prayer or holy word could be used in the same way.
Observe Your Own Thoughts
Counting the thoughts that arise during your 60-second meditation is another form of practice that you may find useful.
The trick here is to not be hard on yourself. It’s not important if you only have one thought or if you have one hundred. If you are aware of your thoughts, it becomes easier to let them go and to return to your breath.
Some people find that making an inward comment like “thinking” or “let go” can assist in detaching from the thought that is temporarily holding their attention.
Another version of this method is to label each thought (i.e. “clock ticking,” “bird,” or “car horn”). This helps to prevent the thought from continuing in greater detail.
Others find it useful to get into the practice of dropping the thought on the out-breath. If you notice the same thought arising again or a different one sprouting up in its place, you simply release it when you exhale.
The three simple methods presented here are in no way meant to be in-depth or exhaustive, but hopefully they can help you get started in a meditation practice (or even help you return to a practice from which you’ve been absent for a long while). It’s important to find what works best for you.
There is no right or wrong way, and what helps to further someone else’s practice may not be effective for you.
Remember that the practice itself will take time, determination, and commitment if you hope to achieve true transformation.
Be assured that, with persistence, this method can bring about life-changing shifts.
￼I had a friend who did a good job of putting her practice into terms her daughter could understand. She simply said, “You know how mom gets frustrated sometimes and begins to yell? Well this helps me not do that.” The daughter, who was not particularly fond of her mom’s outbursts, was more than happy to get on board with her efforts to change.